In Part 2 of our interview with Apollo, he reflects on his views a little further. Normally the Nida family refrains from delving into too much detail but during this second part of the interview, Apollo really doesn’t hold back. His words continued…
P: I feel like people glamorize marriage, it’s all about the big day or just being able to say I have a husband or a wife but people tend to shy away from admitting the highs and lows of being married. What do you feel about that?
Apollo: Marriage is not what it’s cracked up to be! I have not heard a man that has said I’m happily married, like head over heels or confess to saying I’m good, I haven’t you know. Just to be honest with you, it is a work in progress, I’m new at it. I’m new at marriage, you know fatherhood too, it’s rough. It’s really rough especially because I made a lot of mistakes. You know it’s like when you build a house there’s a certain criteria that you have to follow. It’s like a house, when building a marital structure, there is certain guidelines you have to follow in order to build it the right way. In the beginning I started putting windows and the roof on but I didn’t even have a foundation, so that’s part of my problem. I could only attest to what’s going on with me. It’s hell on wheels and especially if you’re in the public eye, oh my goodness, it’s rough. Like you can’t do anything and everything is misjudged and everybody has something to say. You know Oh we seen Apollo at the strip club, oh Apollo is at the bar and there’s a woman beside him and he’s talking to her and they’re together. I don’t even know the person but I’m just having casual conversation but it’s still an issue so everything matters to be honest with you. It’s rough I would say (laughs).
P: So how are you and Phaedra doing now?
Apollo: Uhm despite everything that’s going on with me, you know we’re still hanging in there. So that’s what we’re doing, we’re just hanging…and you know trying to be supportive as possible. You know but again, it’s hard to gel when you have so much going on. At the end of the day we’re still in the household, we still have two young men to raise and that’s just it. I’m thankful for her and hopefully she’s thankful for me. We do have two young men to raise and we’re civil and we’re just rolling with it. It is definitely rocky though, I would be crazy to sit here and say everything is just peachy and it’s not. It’s a lot of turmoil, you know. One thing about me, I try to be a realist, I don’t want to bullshit no body. I had enough of that, that’s not who I am so yeah it’s definitely a little rough…
P: What are some of your flaws and vices?
Apollo: My vices, is that I’m an extrovert and I like to go out and have a good time. I like to go out and I like to party. I think that life is 24 hours and it hurts me in many ways. If I wake up at 2:00 in the morning and want to grill out, I would go to “Kroger” and buy my steak and turn the grill on at 2:00 in the morning because I feel like life is forever going. I don’t want to get stuck in this box and feel like I have to be structured in the way that society wants me to be structured. Okay life starts for the world six, seven in the morning and then you need to go to bed by 10 and that’s not really me. I think that’s really something that holds me back because I find myself in situations that if I had some more structure, maybe I wouldn’t really be in these situations, you understand… My flaws, I need to listen more. Be more attentive, I need to listen more of what’s going on and not just push everything under a rug. I’m always that person like that’s cool and it doesn’t really matter. It’s kind of like you get slapped in the face and you just brush it off and keep it going and that’s not really the right thing to do. Everything has to be addressed, for example, this analogy. Okay you have this animal, and your trying to tame the animal to be house trained so if you come home and the dog pisses on the floor. If you don’t reprimand the dog right then and there, guess what, you come home two and three days later and he peed again then you want to whoop him. He’s not gonna know what happen. So every situation needs to be nipped in the butt and that’s how you build and grow. If you continue on like that, man you’re going to messed up. Probably one of my flaws, listening and addressing the issue at hand.
P: I know that you’re limited to discussing legal matters, I’m wondering what your thought process is about everything is. Are you preparing yourself for the unexpected?
Apollo: I am preparing myself for the unexpected…I have all my affairs in line for the most part except the garage which is not cleaned (chuckles). I’m going to work on that this weekend. As far as you know itemizing everything, just making sure things are in order. It’s unfortunate you know, shit happens in life. If you’ve been slapped before, you know what it feels like. One’s a little more impacted than the other but I’m trying to stay in good spirits and not let this get the best of me. You have a lot of haters out there and a lot of people who want to see you fall, that want to see me fall and they don’t even know me. So that’s terrible but I do have a couple people in my corner who are supportive and they have my back. But again that could change very quickly, people are always there in the beginning. It’s a marathon; it’s not just a simple jog around the block. It takes a toll on families and friends but for me mentally I’m good. If the unfortunate happens, I’m a resilient person so I’m going to be alright. I don’t settle for less so when I come home, I mean hey! One thing is when I come home I own Nida Fitness (laughs). I can always bounce back, it’s so much but you know but I’m a likeable person, I’m an attractive guy, not meaning anything by it. I’m going to always take care of myself so as far as selling myself I always have a shot at it. I try to have good connections with people so hopefully I’m not just assed out.
P: What do you want people to know that they would never know about you?
Apollo: If people really knew, excuse my language but I don’t give a fuck. I don’t care, period. I don’t care about someone else’s opinion. You’re not paying my bills, you don’t do shit for me. I understand that the public is how we get ratings and there are people who may not like us and those people who like us. Like Floyd Mayweather for example, you know why he’s so successful because everybody fucking watches him fight so they could watch him loose. So, he makes the money off the haters and his fans and that’s fine. For me I just wish people would just like know that I could care less about anything that someone has to say. This negative shit, who in their right mind would sit there and say something so hideous. You know one time I was reading a blog and they were saying oh he’s going back to the prison and this that and the third, and he’s facing this much time. I’m thinking wow is that what you want? We have kids whose lives are at stake, franchises that are in jeopardy because of what could potentially happen. We have businesses and marriage issues at stake. Do these people really look at the facet of what’s really going on here? This is some real shit and a lot of people are affected. Another thing I’m independent. My wife don’t do shit for me, nothing! My American express is my mother fucking American express, my car that I drive is my car. Every time someone sees me in Gucci, Louis, and Versace, that’s my shit. You see what I’m saying, there’s no handout over here….
Interview by: Patrice A. Floy