Joe Budden is Not an Asshole
“I was popping Mollys all summer. When I was doing it, I hadn’t slept in five days. It has a lot of side effects, a lot of side effects,” states Budden in his signature gravely tone. The love and Hip-Hop star’s ongoing struggle with drugs is not something that he hides from.
Since the release of his debut single “Pump it up,” in August 2003, Budden has become the source of curiosity for many people in the hip-hop community.
Budden an open book on his relationships and drug use remains an enigma. We hear more about his personality from his ex-lovers and cast mates than we actually see on the show. It would appear that season three of the Mona Scott produced Love and Hip –Hop could easily be renamed “All about J Bud.”
Budden is connected to every cast member and appears to be the tie that binds everyone. He was quoted saying in an interview with Hot 97 “Everything Joe Budden related is transparent; every bar, every verse is transparent. Now you’re just getting a picture to go along with it. Any time I can broaden awareness, I have nothing to hide.” Listening to lyrics of the track “Castles ,” from the ‘No Love Lost,’mix tape one gets a sense that Budden is a man, who is exercising his demons when he spits “ You’d probably tell me I’m a fucked up nigga/ You got it wrong/ I just won’t be fucked up wit ya.”
Joe can be found candidly discussing his relapse that broke 14 years of sobriety from drugs. His parents were also drug users each having 20 plus years of sobriety. Joe admits to using molly and being up for five days straight. He says that Molly makes you hallucinate, and sometimes when things are not going well in your life you want that escape.
He has also spoken about not remembering whole summers and the people around him not knowing him because of his drug use. With the show Joe allows fans to peer into his life as he battles this devil. He is now sober with the help of his mother and his ex-girlfriend Tahiry.
His story is relevant in a time when drug usage is being glorified in songs such as All Gold Everything by Trinidad James chants “Poppin Molly/I’m sweating” and Diamonds by Rihanna, the roc nation princess sings “As we moonshine and molly, feel the warmth, we’ll never die.” What these songs aren’t highlighting is what really happens when your on drugs. Love and Hip Hop shows Joe’s family and everyday life being affected by his choice to use drugs. His mom said “, a lot of people can get clean, but it’s more important to stay clean, its a choice between life and death”. Famed ex-girlfriend, Tahiry told the Breakfast club “It affected me, it hurt me, I’m watching it happen. I and his mom are real close. I’m not with him, but I don’t want him to pop some pills and die.” She continues on and states “we have a lot of history a lot of hurt and pain. have all kinds of baggage, Chanel and ish.” She concludes with “I’m over Joe, been over Joe.”
Another Love and Hip-Hop cast member, who appears to have caught Budden Fever is Raqi Thunder, a former Sirus personality. When discussing Joe’s place on the show or if they have a sexual history, Thunder states “Joe Budden is on the show because of me. I’m the top dog. I am not going to be sleeping on those target sheets.” She proceeds to discuss his connection with drugs when she says “Joe to me is always on something.” Love him or hate em it would appear that Budden certainly has a way with the ladies. Despite his battle with drugs and public romances Budden always seems to come out on top, proving many who have pegged him as a one note rapper wrong.
Looks like Joe has chosen life, and has decided to help others as well. Along with making his struggle with drugs public, he has also been very vocal in his interviews about not glorifying drugs and showing younger people that there is nothing glamorous about drug usage. Beyond the interviews Joe has been taking his message to local community centers as well. He believes there are not enough people speaking out about drugs and that someone should.
One can not tell the story of Budden without discussing his relationship with Tahiry. Known for her voluptuous shape and vivacious personality, Tahiry seems to be one of the few people to understand the rapper. These two were a couple for five years, and were well known for their public roller-coaster relationship. Despite Budden’s relationship with 21 year old, Zumba Instructor, Kaylin Garcia . There appears to be an undeniable chemistry between Tahiry and Joe.
All is well between these two “friends” until Joe refuses to do a song with Tahiry because his current girlfriend is uncomfortable. But prior to this Joe stood up for Tahiry against another Love and Hip Hop cast member Raqi Thunda. This constant back and forth between them being friends and more than friends is definitely a huge reason why audiences tune in week to week. With so many of his personal issues on front Street, I had to ask Joe if he ever regrets having his personal life out for the public to see? He says, “I try not to live with regret, as long as you live with them you’ll die with them” He is pretty much an open book. This season shows him as more than a rapper he is a man who has many conflicting sides, loves his family, and the women in his life.
What’s next for Joe beyond Love and Hip Hop? He is currently in the studio with Slaughterhouse working on their sophomore album, which follows up Welcome to Our House released last year. Joe has also partnered up with his friend Aristotle for a clothing line entitled “By Any Means” which is available on Karma-Loop. Joe became a part of By Any Means clothing because he believes in the message behind it, which is resilience, perseverance and following your dreams.
It’s safe to say that with all the recent drama in the news and blogosphere the upcoming Love and Hip Hop reunion is sure to be an interesting one. Joe is currently beefing with Consequence, what happened there? Are he and Tahiry back together? And if so what happened to Kaylin Garcia? After all is said and done Joe’s life may be complicated but its real. Just like a normal person he has sides to him that are in conflict, but it’s obvious he’s trying to do better. At the end of the day he just wants the people watching to see he is a genuine guy, regardless if you agree with him or not. He is who he is whether the cameras are rolling or not. Ultimately that’s why we will be tuning in…