Since the birth of Instagram and Twitter direct messaging, there has been an influx of messages from random followers on both platforms- sometimes the messages are cute, sometimes they make you want to pound your head into a wall. As someone who has had her fair share of guys in her DM’s, let me tell you something- there is a wrong and a right way to go about sliding into them DM’s.
First and foremost, try your best not to be creepy. It’s really easy! Don’t start off with a message that only talks about her body and the things you would do to it. That kind of thing gets you blocked before you can say, “EW.” Say something nice, and cute. Maybe say something about how pretty her eyes are, or how nice her smile is. But don’t be one of those guys that says, “Just keep smiling, don’t ever stop smiling. I love that smile.” People who say that are, in many ladies’ opinions, usually pretty creepy.
Let’s throwback a little to writing essays in high school- state your purpose at the beginning. Do you want to really befriend a girl and get to know her? Do you want to just say she’s pretty and to wish her a good day? Let her know, or else we won’t really know what to do with the message.
Finally, don’t ever get angry with us for not reciprocating your affections. Maybe we are in a relationship. Maybe we aren’t looking to talk to anyone right now. Maybe we just want to be friends. Maybe you’re just not our type. Regardless of the reason, don’t turn around and start name-calling us when you were just thirsty for us a second ago.
If it does turn out that the lady of your affections doesn’t reciprocate your feelings, don’t be glum. Maybe direct messaging a random girl from the Internet isn’t the thing that will help you score a lady friend. There’s many different ways to meet girls, so maybe it’ time to get off your phone and try them.